In Loving Memory


  

Robert Thomas Church

(1979 - 2000)

 

Fatal Decisions...A Promising Life Ended

      

This website was designed to be far more than just a memorial site for my son.  Robert lives in my heart and soul everyday.  I don't need a website to remind me of this special young man who was loved by all who knew him.

    

Arrive Alive is not just another website about the real dangers of underage drinking, drinking and driving, and alcohol abuse, although the dangers are very real.  Arrive Alive is about decisions and consequences.  Often we don't think about potential consequences until it is to late to change the situation. 

    

The fact that many young people today are living with the belief of being "invincible" is nothing new.  I think all of us felt that way in the early stages of our lives, and our mortality never entered our thoughts.  By human nature almost everyone thinks "bad things only happen to other people...it will never happen to me."  I used to believe that also, until our family became part of that group known as "the other people."

 

Within this website you will find the true stories of many of those "other people."  It is my hope that Robert's story, or another real life story you find here, will cause you to make better personal choices and not meet the same fate many here met.  There are lessons for all of us in these stories, young and old alike.  Please learn from them.  They came at a heavy price.

 

    

This website is dedicated to the memory of all the

"other people."  

  

     Thank you for visiting Arrive Alive!

 

                                                                    Sincerely,

 

                                                                    Jack Church

                                                                    Robert's Father 

 

"Only some of us can learn from

other people's experiences. 

The rest of us have to

be the other people."

(Farmer's Almanac, 2001)

 

 

8 Years

Rest in Peace Son

 

A letter to Robert

August 29, 2008

 

 

 

            

                The Expensive Ride Home

 

          What is the average cost of a DUI?

                 Click on the photo above.

 

                    

Jury Sentences Church to

30 years in prison

 

That was the headline in local news in our area on July 24, 2008.  The Church they were referring to is Robert's brother, Douglas.  Once again the tragic consequences that can result when someone makes the decision to drive after drinking were made evident on August 11, 2006.  On that evening Doug left a friend's house, where he had been drinking beer, and attempted to drive home.  At approximately 11 p.m. on that night, on a two lane, paved farm road, he attempted to pass a friend in front of him in a no passing zone.  As he approached a hill, a 35 year old mother and her three children were travelling from the opposite direction.  When it became obvious to the mother that they were about to collide, she went to the ditch on her right.  Unfortunately Doug swerved toward the ditch also, trying to avoid a collision.  Instead he hit the woman's truck almost head on in the ditch.  The mother died at the scene of the crash.  The three children all sustained serious injuries, with the youngest being critically injured.  This is a tragedy beyond imagination.  Doug's decision to drive while intoxicated that night destroyed an innocent family.  Three children lost their mother, a husband lost his wife, a mother lost her daughter, siblings lost their sister.  So many lives were impacted.  The pain caused by Doug's decision to drive after drinking that night is beyond measure.  It doesn't matter that Doug did not get into his truck that night with the intention of causing the death of that mother and injuring her three children.  He broke the law and made a conscious choice to drive after drinking.  His remorse cannot undo the damage that resulted from that choice.

 

Douglas was charged with one count of intoxication manslaughter and three counts of intoxication assault.  He pled guilty on all charges and on 7/24/08 was sentenced to 30 years in prison and 10 years probation once he is released.  A complete description of this tragedy, like Robert's story, is lengthy.  Preparations are now being made for the full details to be included on this web site, (and soon will be), in hope that it will influence others and prevent them from making the same personal choice that Doug did, of getting behind the wheel of a vehicle after drinking.

 

We continue to pray for the victim's family and we ask that you join us in that prayer.

 

PLEASE DON'T DRINK AND DRIVE!

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Death by Alcohol

The Sam Spady Story

 

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Letter from Andrew Papke

 

 Texas Prison Inmate

Convicted on 2 counts of

Intoxication Manslaughter

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